Recapping on the month of March prompts feelings of divinity, worth and confidence, we’re closing on Women’s History Month. I am excited to see the power of proclamation that women have taken across the world. Not only are we standing up for ourselves and each other; and even though we have so much more to go, it is something else to see stronger and louder acknowledgments from the opposite sex.
In my personal venture I started off in the clothing industry, I had to quickly learn the ins and outs of clothing production and even then only learned a fourth of the whole process. I began working with a fabric shop owner who would go on and produce my first pattern and sample for a simple bodysuit within a 2 week period, or so I thought. I went into this “business deal” very trusting and naive. Never thinking to include a contract and have clear expectations of what needed to be done. In the end I did not receive the proper attention that was required as a new client/customer. I soon realized that because I was a small order and a new “brand” to this shop owner, I was placed at the bottom of the totem pole. Not only was I given poor services but when inquiring about when my order would be finished, the shop owner was very condescending, rude, and unprofessional to me. He got hostile with me over the phone and let me know that he does not work under pressure. Those were his exact words, interesting because the clothing industry is all about deadlines. Mind you, the man had already known that I was a rookie in the industry, which does not explain tone he took with me. Aside from that he had me pay upfront for the order, which is something I learned is a big red flag. As you can already see, since the man got his money, he was able to have me wait a whole month, yes a whole month until I received my pattern and sample. Now if I would have been a male in the industry the conversation would have been a lot different, the tone would have been lighter and smooth as opposed to talking down to me. Just knowing that I had to communicate with him made me anxious, I knew I had to walk on egg shells and speak to him in a different manner because this man had a short temper and everything I said seemed to rub him the wrong way. He told me that I was just like all the other designers he had dealt with, which only shows his unprofessionalism. I was far from what he was stereotyping me as since I was just asking on the status of what I had paid full price for. This guy was clearly a jerk, had I been more attentive at picking up on the red flags from the beginning I would not have been in that situation, waiting on my services that I had paid for. When I met the man I ignored his initial condescending remarks, I quickly learned that even if you need someone else’s services, your respect comes first, always. It sets the tone for the business relationship. Just because you are new to something it does not mean it is ok for someone with experience to belittle you. Since the details were not discussed I soon found out all the extra costs he was throwing in, like only having one fitting minimum to perfect the sample anything after that would be an alteration cost, paying for the thread used on my garment, buying more fabric that was never used, and setting a due date. Due to these unforeseen circumstances I no longer wanted to be invovled in this deal so I just accepted what was given to me. I received a horrendous final sample that I am not satisfied with but because there was no contract I decided to close the deal. I urge you if you are going into something you know little about but don’t want to continue looking for someone else, please WAIT, don’t just go with someone you’re not comfortable with. Make sure you are being heard and most importantly respected. And lastly please make a contract with everyone you are doing business with, even if you feel like you trust the person, at the end of the day its business and unfortunately you can’t trust anybody. Contracts maximize success rates and keep expectations clear and concise. I hope this helps and please if you are in the L.A area and are looking for a production house contact me so I can steer you clear from the fabric store. xoxo
To all those foodies who love their breakfast but are also looking for a light and healthy morning meal that is filling and nutritious. You have come to the right place. One of my favorite toppings has been, flax seeds. I like to add them to all my breakfast dishes, whether its adding them in my cereal, sprinkling them on my scrambled eggs, or even on my toast. For one, they are high in fiber, which helps you go to the bathroom regularly, two, contains omega 3s, AKA essential fatty acids that are good for our hearts, and three, contains estrogen and antioxidant qualities (lignans). What more can you ask for? One of my go to breakfast dishes is using Ezekiel’s Cinnamon Raison gluten free bread. I toast it, spread ghee on this bad boy, add organic almond butter, sprinkle flax seeds and drizzle honey to set the seeds. OMG how yummy. Recently I came up with a savory edition to this. Again I toasted the bread, spread ghee, added flax, then grabbed an avocado and used half to spread over, then finished it with salt and pepper. Mmmm. Oh and don’t let me forget how important and beneficial ghee is. Ghee has a high smoke point which means you can cook using high temperatures and it won’t break down into free radicals. Ghee does not need to be refrigerated because it does not spoil easily. Ghee is dairy and casein free, it is made from butter but the impurities and milk solids are removed. Ghee is rich in vitamin A and E. It is antiviral and has antioxidant properties. New studies have found that Ghee also helps with our negative emotions and moods that are stored as fat. Ghee works by extracting those toxins and replacing them with its own good fats. I can go on but really Ghee is amazing it also has similar properties to coconut oil.
I don’t know why I don’t post my mirror pictures on my blog so here goes 🙂 and there will be more to come.
Todays outfit consisted of a plain white tank top, H&M ripped jeans, Target sandals, and some awesome sunglasses I bought at Buffalo Exchange for $8.00!
It’s almost Spring time! It’s like a metaphor to me especially this year with so much personal growth and revelations. I know soon I’ll blossom into my true free self, striped of all external worries and just be. I’ve done a lot of soul searching, dug deep down inside, and still discovering so much about myself. I’ve experienced a great amount of conflict, Madness, these past months and I am so greatful for them because without it there is no growth. If you have people around you who constantly agree with you no matter what, then you will remain just as you are, stagnant without change. Challenges make you think and uncover things, things that aren’t apparent to those who are still attached to the ego. When you are spiritually open to the universe you will hear when it talks to you. Through these conflicts I am continuing to realize that anything that I take offense to is truly something about me and not the other person. It’s something that I need to process work through and make neutral so that it will no longer impact me as it did. I’m hearing the universe talk to me and I’m so grateful and taking in and growing from every opportunity.
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What have you learned about yourself?
Took a risk and played on the train tracks this time >_< I was super nervous but thankfully nothing happened. We got some cool shots in front of bright graffiti colors which complimented the outfit nicely. I wore a high low above the knee jersey skirt by Obey and a crop t shirt from H&M with my classic white Converse. I accessorized it minimally with librarian inspired sunglasses from and a heart ring, both from H&M.
My new focus with my life coach has been finding neutrality and being in control. I’ve recently been struggling with not being in control of what happens in my life. Things as small as catching a cold to finding my dream job or experiencing feelings that affect my body, like anxiety. The first step is welcoming the situation, being open to what has presented itself because the more we deny it the more power we are feeding it. By accepting the situation we are allowing for a natural process to occur. Since we can not change what is happening, we are only making our life difficult by not accepting it. I remember reading about this in The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle except he calls this mechanism, surrendering. When he says,
Forgive yourself for not being at peace. The moment you completely accept your non-peace, your non-peace is transmuted into peace. Anything you accept fully will get you there, will take you into peace. This is the miracle of surrender. After reading this book years ago it made total sense to me, but I was also in a good place and we all know how different it is when we feel we’re in a quote unquote good place then not so good place. Now, this being the second time I am being exposed to the idea of acceptance/surrender I am in a deeper level of comprehension. I’m not gonna lie, this is still difficult to adjust to but the more and more I do it, the easier it is and the more in tune and at peace I feel. The second part to this acceptance is the idea of being in control, when something arises may it be a cold you’re dreading or anything you are fearful of, call it out. Because don’t forget that whatever you fear you are attracting and manifesting in your life. You are planting a seed of intention even though you don’t want it, it’s there because you have labeled it as a fear. The opposite of fear is again acceptance and by calling that fear out and welcoming it into your life than you neutralize it and thus you are in control of it. By welcoming it you realize that if it comes up in your life that it was because you allowed it. I know that this may be a hard pill to swallow but isn’t it better to be neutral with life so that if and when it happens it doesn’t cause pain? Looking at situations in this way relieves all our worries and doubts. Getting to this place to me is freedom and tearing down all the things we are socialized to believe is what is the most difficult part about this path but I do believe true peace is attainable.
I would love to hear what you think. Thank you for reading xoxo